Back In The Pond

First off, I am not an expert nor do proclaim to be. I had my first date when I was 15 and that was quite a while ago. Today, it is quite a different game than it was 20 years ago. Back then, we saw someone we liked, talked to them and if all went well, you'd exchange phone numbers and call to make a date. We didn't have online dating, email or smartphones to text each other. I was married for quite a while and only started dating again a few years ago. But I have to say, it was quite nerve racking. I just happen to be in sales so, I'm pretty comfortable to talking to strangers but something about meeting your date for the first time can make you want to be sick to your stomach. What will you talk about? What if you say something stupid? Those awkward pauses and what if they just don't like you? So, to start off this blog, here are a few tips for that first date. 

1. Plan something short and simple. I would suggest coffee or a drink for that first meeting. If things don't work out, it gives you both an easy way to get out. I don't suggest movies as you don't really get a chance to talk to each other and dinner might be a little too awkward if you're stuck there stuffing your face with someone who you have no chemistry with. If the date goes well, then you can continue or even go for a walk.
2. Don't be late. Especially, if you're a guy. There is nothing worse than having your date wait for you the first time you meet. For all they know, they might think they're being stood up.
3. Be a good listener. Actively listen to what your date has to say. If they talk about their family, ask them about growing up with their family. If they talk about their hobbies, show interest and ask them more about their hobbies. 
4. And of course, be yourself. Do not be someone you're not and don't try to rehearse for the date. You're date will probably sense it and will only bring on more awkwardness. Just relax, be who you are and have some fun. It will make things a lot easier.

And last but not least, just talk. Don't make it an interview. Just have a relaxing conversation to see if you two have any chemistry. Remember, your goal for the first date is just to see if you two should go on a second date.