Friday, March 28, 2014

Knowing When A Date Is Going Well.

So, you have a date. You both show up at the coffee shop and say hello face to face for the first time. Then, you start asking each other questions about each other and the date begins. You're both probably a little nervous so, how do you know things are going well? Well, there are a few signs. 


  1. The first obvious sign is the ease and flow of the conversation. Once you get past the small talk, you may start to refer back to topics you've talked about previously on the phone or messages. If you both show interest and ask questions, there's little chance you'll run into awkward pauses.
  2. Body language. This is huge so, pay attention to what your date does. Watch for things like eye contact, smiling, and hand gestures. Constant eye contact is a good sign that they are interested in you. If they lean in when you're saying something, that shows that they're really interested. If they start mimicking some of your gestures, that's a great sign that they like you and feel a connection. Touching is a sure sign that they are very comfortable with you. Some of the red flags are things like if they keep looking at their watch or look away and if they keep their arms folded.
  3. How it ends. If and one hour date turns into three hours and it doesn't even feel that long, that probably means you two hit it off. At the end of the date, you both should feel a little more relaxed and maybe even a little sexual tension between you. At this point, it's probably a good idea by breaking the physical barrier by giving her a hug or a little peck on the cheek. 
  4. Follow up. You or your partner should follow up with a thank you shortly after the first date. Usually, within a couple of days. Your texts or phone call should sound a lot more relaxed now and there should be an invitation of a second date.
Of course, there are also some bad telltale signs to let you know that things aren't going so great too. Things like if you date is giving you very short or one word answers, the conversation is plagued with dead space silence, and the good ol' hand shake or pat on the back before they take off like the Enterprise at warp 10 at the end of the date.

In the end, don't have huge expectations for the first date. You are both there to see if there is any chemistry and if there are possibilities between you two. That's it. So, relax have fun and good luck out there.

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